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Relationship dynamics aren't only about romantic partners. They show up with our kids, our friends, our boss. Really, relationship dynamics are about what happens when we encounter the other: the dances we typically engage in when, for instance, someone gets upset with us, or when we feel hurt and upset with someone else. We usually talk about them in romantic relationships, in part because those are the ones we see ourselves in the most, and the ones we have the most invested in. Relationship dynamics also extend into the work you and I do together. What is the relationship between us? What does it feel like to have a sense of safety in a relationship, with someone you can get mad at, disagree with and cry with, without having to perform, knowing that I am still securely there for you?